(You may have seen this one yesterday in the RSS, because I am bad at calendars. -J.) I have a really hard time identifying as “a submissive.” It just seems so simple. Too simple. The about page is more-or-less accurate given my current relationship. It says I’m “a spanko-y, bondage-loving, d/s-y, masochistic-type.” In true “bad at […]
Lily at The Black Leather Belt (which is awesome) left a comment on my last entry. My response became long and ungainly. She wrote: I think there’s something very wrong with our cultural imagination when there are so, so many ordinary people into BDSM combined with an almost complete inability to characterize their lives in […]
I am having a little bit of an existential crisis. I blame “erotic fiction.” Well. That, and the fact that I’m a perv. From Annabel Joseph, in a Smutketeers interview. To be honest, most of the BDSM romance out there dilutes or homogenizes what we do. I’ve been told by publishers to “tone stuff down” […]
